Birthday party 4 year old - preschool politics

[mousymouse]

my sons birthday is coming up and we are planning a party.
ds is keen on inviting some preschool/nursery friends but not all of them.
is it all right to only invite his friends, or will this start a riot?

I only invited ds's nursery group i.e. 8 children rather than the whole lot of them (there are about 40 in total). Invite who you want, it is your party (and your money!)

My calculation is 'less than half OR everyone'.

only do it if you are just inviting a few. don't let it end up that just one or two don't get an invite

Jiggery's sounds like a plan.
I have always (very much against my will ) invited the whole class, other friends just invite the girls, or just the boys. There was a Diplomatic Incident though (which scarred me more than dd in the end) where she was the only one not invited in her class to a party.

When my DD was at nursery, she played with different children at different times - depending who was in for which sessions. There would have been in excess of 60 children on the 'possibles' list.

I usually have small parties at home - I decide the number of children I can handle and then get DD to pick who she wants to invite up to that number. Bugger the politics - that's got nothing to do with the children at this age, just competitive parenting.

Forgot that bit Bucharest! yy to 'only the children of the same gender as your birthday dc'

A lovely child I know has recently been left out of a birthday celebration because only 8 places were available, and there are 9 girls in the class. I could thump that mum, I really could (there is history).

Thanks Ladies,
I have a room that can take up to 30 people, given that the parents + possibly baby siblings will come as well that leaves me with about 10 kids. half of which are non-nursery friends. so I am well below half the group and will only invite the kids ds actually likes and plays with.
btw. I hate the only boys or girls "rule" why can't boys play with girls or vice versa?

They can - but after a certain age, at school, girls play mostly with girls, and boys with boys.

It's not exactly a "rule" - and in the example I mentioned, it's a bunch of 8 year olds going to the ballet.

and they couldn't get a nineth ticket? that is a bit mean