No-one RSVP'ing

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Hi there, it's my dd's 3rd b'day soon, I have sent invites to 14 of her nursery friends via the carers at nursery, with my email address at the bottom for RSVP's. Only 4 people have RSVP'd, and I have no way of chasing up the others because we are on holiday tomorrow for a week. Do I just assume people are coming and that they would say if they weren't coming? Am getting quite stressed about numbers for food/party bags.

Annoying isn't it. I think you probably need to assume that most of them are comming, yes. How long until the party? Can you leave preparation until the last minute? And perhaps do a lucky dip instead of party bags?

I had this exact problem. My DD's 3rd birthday is on Saturday. I had only a few responses and then there was a flurry of them this weekend just gone. I still haven't had responses from some and so have assumed they're not coming but have provided for them in case they do (if that makes sense).

I even included a very polite note that asked if they could respond by a certain date so that I could confirm with venue and ensure party bags etc.

I recently had a situation at nursery where we didn't get an invitation until after the party. Fortunately the mother concerned had asked us verbally anyway. Our nursery is very good too so I was quite surprised by this. Is there any way you could check with the nursery? Realise you're on holiday but it may be woth it if you can.

It's hard, isn't it? I was worried that no-one would come and DD would be hurt, etc. As it is, about two thirds of those invited are coming and her best friends are in there so hopefully it'll be fine.

Obviously the nursery staff can't give you contact details, but might they pass on a second note?

It's incredibly rude not to reply. I would be inclined to assume they weren't coming and rearrange the party to suit the number of guests you do have. But you might have more replies when you get back from holiday - how soon after that is the party?

We have 5 days between getting back and the party, so I'll just have to hang around outside nursery trying not to look deranged!

I don't really know the mothers very well, have invited the children the carer says my DD likes to play with, but thought they might email to confirm anyway. I purposefully invited quite a few thinking that some wouldn't be able to make it, so don't mind if they can't make it. Just want to know! I just don't want to set the hall for 17 and then only ten arrive and DD saying 'where are all of my friends mummy'

Oh well, thanks for your help though ladies

Hope your party goes well BDSM - any tips will be greatly appreciated!

I did this and had ONE RSVP out of 13 children. And that was the one that turned up. It was a home party and we had friends there so it wasn't too bad but I thought it so rude. I had provided email, mobile and landline and asked for an RSVP.

People are so rude.

Oh god Tippychooks, that's terrible. Did the mothers say anything when you saw them afterwards?
We have a dancing class lady coming to entertain the troops so hopefully it'll be lovely anyway, but still!
I'm sure I was more relaxed planning our wedding

No, never saw them at all so at least it wasn't personal! It was a nursery so staggered picking up times. I didn't care as my DD barely noticed at that age but I was gobsmacked at the rudeness. Surely you'd text at least?
I am sure you'll have a blast though. Dancing lady sounds good.