I live in a big and beautiful house, owned by my partner. We share another house elsewhere, and we're in a good long term relationship. This is the first time in my whole life that I've lived in somebody else's house, and its been a challenge! Eg. I can't change anything.
While I have respectful and kind children, one of his behaves as though its "their" house. This person does not live here, and lives on and off away from home in different countries or university. But has turned up, despite significant stress, expecting to just live here again. I try to find quiet space to work, read, relax, watch TV or listen to music - but everywhere I go, partner or the stepchild turn up. The fridge gets decimated. Things get moved, hidden, sometimes destroyed. Age is 25. Partner wants to placate all the time and gives them money. Worries about their mental health, a legitimate concern. His communication, and the step child's, is terrible - towards me. I am CRAVING my own space! I have proposed family counselling or mediation to help them understand how ill this is making me. Help me please! - are there any others in this situation!