My DS is a very intelligent and gifted person. He has highly educationally qualified and he has a good job. He has a wide friendship circle but he has no partner and no really close friend . He is buying his own flat. As far as I'm concerned his flat is now no longer fit for human habitation because of the state of the bathroom. The toilet doesn't even work properly. There are a lot of other issues in tbe flat, such as rotting window frames, but the state of the bathroom is just appalling. He had a lot of health problems the last year or so and was eventually diagnosed as type one Diabetes. This been life changing for him and he has done brilliantly coming to terms with this and learning to manage his condition. But he can't or won't do anything about the condition of his home. I no longer want to even visit it. He can't invite his friends there. I have offered financial and practical help as regards making the place habital and money isnt really the issue. But if I try and talk to him about the state of his home he gets extremely upset I quite frankly don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to support him through his life changing health diagnosis but seeing him live in squalor is devastating me and is driving a wedge between us. I don't care about decor etc . But him living in a home without a properly. working toilet is just devastatingn me. Please does anyone have any suggestions about how I can help him without alienating him.