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My sons mental health

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Tracysmith1451975 · 13/11/2025 01:23

My son has not bin able to go into school for all of his high school ,he has not any support tried doctors .no luck with them .he has left school ,and he is 17 ,cannot do collage, or any work .he stays in his room day and night .so worried over him .breaks my heart.need any advise on help .urgent help please .from the uk .

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Evergreen505 · 13/11/2025 01:30

Is your son Autistic? This problem is so common. I've started my own thread with similar challenges.

I would consider medication. Trying to encourage him to try something that might help. An anti anxiety medication or antidepressant for example. Hugs.

Tracysmith1451975 · 13/11/2025 02:08

Thankyou .,x

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rosyvalentine · 13/11/2025 02:30

I agree with @Evergreen505 Try an antidepressant like Sertraline and counselling may be helpful too, if your son is willing to engage. I've been through this with my own DS and the antidepressants really helped. Best of luck.

Monty27 · 13/11/2025 02:40

I avoided a breakdown when my ds was that age. Unbeknwn to me he was so miserable because he was broke and trying to find a way.
Be there for him. Good luck.
It wasn't easy and I feel your pain.
Hopefully this too will pass.

Inlimboin50s · 13/11/2025 12:59

I'm sorry this is happening to you both. My,d's 18 is similar and today we have our first counselling session. I'm hoping he will engage.
what I've learnt us they can't help it. Do you have a family member of a good family friend who could perhaps have a chat with him? After two years of just awful times, I told a few people and the relief was huge.

Aliceisagooddog · 21/11/2025 11:16

Honestly, I think this is happening to more and more young people, especially boys. I wonder which organisations are helpful with this?

Evergreen505 · 21/11/2025 12:15

Aliceisagooddog · 21/11/2025 11:16

Honestly, I think this is happening to more and more young people, especially boys. I wonder which organisations are helpful with this?

I have an extended family where the boys especially were in and out of foster care, in the reform type schools, reprobates etc etc. Thos would have been 70s to early 80s.

Now, it's pretty apparent on talking together with older aunties and watching all these cousins of mine being diagnosed, that there's a huge genetic prevalence in the family for ADHD at the least. It makes absolute sense when I think on behaviour that just seemed out of control. Now many cousins are diagnosed as Autistic. My own child diagnosed, my ex certainly masking and very successful and hiding true self.

We have different systems now and don't have those type of ' boys units ' and are therefore trying to manage people with all sorts of needs in one awful rigid system.

I would love to read studies on what's going on here. Whether we have a genuine increase in ND people who are finding this particular society set up harder than ever with it's rigid conformist requirements. Or, have people stopped masking. Or do we now see that these people aren't actually ' naughty'. Some are both of course. Many just can't conform to the rigid requirements of school especially and are absolutely losing it, understandably!

I look at people now and think so many people would be diagnosed as ND now. I would bet my life it would include Kurt Cobain, Eminem, maybe Bowie, lead singer of the Cure, David Beckham. I could go on. People who just cannot and refuse to conform are going to have a horrible time if there aren't other opportunity and chances.

Bit of a ramble! I enjoy philosophising on this subject. I wish it wasn't so tragic for so many though.

Friendlyfart · 08/12/2025 12:59

@Evergreen505- totally agree with everything you say.

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