I'm about done

[Jamiegggfish]

I'm a 64-year-old stepdad and my girlfriend have been together 32 years. Two adult girls in their upper 30s. For the past 8 months we have been taking the oldest one to work twice a day 5 days a week because she has.no car. She has an apartment of 1100 a month and a single mother with two children. And yes we pay for the gas! I'm so ready to cut her off! Am I the bad guy?

I think you need to encourage your SD to find another way to get to and from her work. Don't cut her off, that's not fair.

What does your DP say? I would be difficult to stop payment or help if she’s not in agreement

I would tell her as shes nearly fourty, its time to grow up and get herself to work. God i was 17 and having to walk to work at a motorway station couldnt imagine relying on my parents in my late 30s

Why isn’t the taking public transport? Is she in an isolated area?

She is a grown adult

Is she struggling financially? Are you struggling financially? We don’t have a lot of information. Granted she is an adult, but we all need help from time to time, and if she is a struggling single mum that has no way to get too and from work and your in a position to help, I don’t see the problem. Is she grateful for the help, or is she taking it for granted? Is she able to use public transport? So many questions.

You don’t have to live in an isolated area to have a lack of public transport. Ive lived in a city and only had buses come to our part twice a day. Public transport is hugely underfunded in huge areas of the UK.

I think this would be the US (gas is definitely American) as would saying girlfriend after 32 years (UK would say partner) so no transport and v rural would make sense but apartment wouldn’t either!

Seriously? Can’t you discuss this with your daughter and either ask for fuel money or give her notice of when you will stop the lifts so she can work out something else?

Is your girlfriend taking her DD to work or are you?

Single mum needing to pay rent / you give no idea of the cost of the fuel or the type of work she is able to do or how much she values the lift ( financially or adult time with people she cares about ) . Can’t understand why you take her twice a day to work though - is this a real thread ?

Well yeah that’s why I asked

I want to change jobs and I don’t drive myself so most of them seem impossible to get to 🤷🏻‍♀️ however I can see how driving someone every single day would become impossible quickly.

Thanks for all of your responses and they are all helpful. To add to the story, the bus line is next to impossible to get to work on time with having to drop the kids off at daycare and school. She only makes 15 bucks an hour with $1,000 rent and $140 a week daycare. She's home cleaning for a company right now but has experience in home health care. Her prior client had passed. We are down to one car so it's a little challenging to do to the shuttle. I'm a contractor at 64 so I can maneuver my hours. My girlfriend is taking her to work in the morning, then I go to work and have to get back by 4:30 so that she can go pick her up from work. Right now I'm in the slow process so getting a disabled car drivable for her.