This is all excellent advice. I loved reading about others experiences through life. It was reassuring to hear how people have switched directions several times and have survived adulthood to this point.
ADHD - This was never mentioned by school or college. But she did go to school which wasn’t the best, so perhaps it’s been missed. I did have a Google of ADHD and she so fits all of those traits. Perhaps she does have it?
Being proud of her - I am very proud of her, with everything that she does (well, most things). I am very happy that she’s not sitting around all day, and she is doing something. She is trying, but she has no idea where to target her efforts. I shall tell her more often that I am proud of her.
Widening the focus from careers to how she feels about adult life - this is good advice. Not sure how to approach this yet, but I certainly think this is something worth trying. Sometimes I haven’t a clue what is going on in her head or how she’s feeling. She’s very good at bottling things up, always gives the answer “I’m alright” or “I’m fine” when I can tell there is something not quite right, then it all comes out at once in a meltdown.
Pay her way / educate about finances in adult life - I like this. I can have that chat with her and show her the finances so she fully understands how much life costs and what she might need to be independent further down the line. I haven’t so far made her pay anything, this was because she was at college for the last 2 years, but I will consider, now that she does have her little KFC job, taking a little bit from her.
Student loans - Yes! I am very glad at this point in time that she doesn’t have any and that she hasn’t just gone to university and piled up the debt when there was no need to or piled it up, changed her mind and dropped out. I think in one way, she hasn’t been very sensible about declining university when not sure about it.
Leave her alone - I can understand this, to a point, but I fear leaving her along to get on with it will not be the best thing in the long run. Perhaps I will, to a point, leave her alone but encourage her to explore the career ideas she has in more depth for the next 6-12 months. Maybe guide her in the direction of volunteering in those areas to see what it’s like.
Apprenticeships - I do like the idea of her getting an apprenticeship, and it is something she has explored in the past. I think this will give her the variety of work and also education and will keep her busy and entertained. It will also give her something to fall back on if she wants to. I liked the suggestions to try for lower levelled apprenticeships at levels 3, 4, and 5. Perhaps we missed a trick by not considering those ones last time. I do like the suggestions to try lower levels though and work upwards.
Matching to personality etc - She’s a kind person. Will do anything for anyone. Interested in all sorts and wants to learn more. But can’t seem to concentrate on focussing on herself. She loves a challenge and seems to be able to start anything and have motivation, but finishing it is a completely different matter. Shes always chasing the next thing and can’t seem to settle on anything. She always seems to come back to playing the piano, even if she’s given up for a few months or longer, or learning more about science. So anything that combines music, people and science would probably be good as long as it has variety and she’s constantly learning. She’s very outgoing, will talk to anyone, constantly needs to be doing something but can be a very sensitive soul at times and get affected and upset by very little things. Trying to find something that fits all of that is going to be tricky. However, as it’s been mentioned, what she decides to do doesn’t have to be forever and she can use it as a base.