Reasonable contributions

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Hi all
2 DS at home, graduated and back home after living away at uni. One in part time temporary work, looking to stay home and do a masters and the other in a full time job. We have decided on our financial requests regarding keep but just wondered how others got on with asking for contributions to running of the household.
I don't clean their rooms or do their washing. I ask them to cook once a week and rota in washing up. Their rooms are horrendous - they don't clear up washing or clean their rooms but I employ a 'close the door'policy.
However, it comes back to bite me on the bum if we have guests which is very rare but is happening next week and we need to use one of their rooms. We are working on how to do this.
What reasonable contributions do others ask from adult DCs in terms of housework? Neither are at the stage of being able to move out yet as one still has student debt and no steady income and the other has only just started his job?
thanks

I think if you’re going to ask for rent, you also have to accept that their space is theirs and you don’t get to use it.

we worked out how much my brother and I cost in terms of electric etc.

groceries weren’t included because I had been doing my own for over a year and my dad would eat everything I bought, so we agreed that they’d do my shopping as long as I cooked for myself.

I think looking back we did what yours are doing but even before that, we had responsibility for a room each, so mine was the bathroom, can’t remember which room my sibling got, it might have been the hall and landing.

Ds was full of promises but they were empty, I gave up asking and have hired a cleaner - she does the communal areas in the house and bathrooms. She will only do ds’s room if he tidies - he doesn’t. He pays an equal contribution to her costs.

I wouldn’t put guests in their rooms.
I have one DD21 at home. She pays board and also have closed door room policy. She cleans it once a week. We have to remind her to chip in with cooking for us once a week. Board is paid by standing order. She pays for her own car and phone etc. I do the household washing as it is more economical, she irons( rarely( her own stuff , makes her own breaks fast and lunches for work.

You can’t put guests in their rooms if they’re paying rent 😳 If there’s no space for the guests otherwise they’ll have to stay elsewhere (the guests, not the dc)!

My dd is 22 and back at home after university. She works in a cafe at the moment whilst looking for a graduate type job (not having luck so far) and pays £150 a month towards food / etc. I don’t ever go in her room. She does her own washing. Occasionally I ask her to run the Hoover round. We do have a cleaner though which helps. Less resentment from me!

Mine were expected to buy their own breakfast, snacks and lunch things. Own washing, clean rooms, vacuum from middle landing up and clean their shared bathroom. Also expected to load dishwasher and clear up more generally their own mess. No rent though and I cooked evening meal and unless I was told in advance, everyone eats at the table together. We are a blended family so even more important to have that time to connect

We didn't charge rent/ board either, DS was saving up to move out and that would have been impossible on his wage if he'd had to pay us as well.

The one who.is working full time should contribute a fixed amount per month ... a % of income. The other one should contribute a nominal fee.