Don't know what to do

[Pandalovelife]

My 18 yo daughter. Is off sick from work and is sleeping all day and up all night. She isn't eating at home. She has decent friends and mostly tells me where she is sleeping allegedly.what can I do. I am trying to help her find her feet. We both have ADHD and probably autistic traits. She smokes weed all the time. Her father is a drug dealer... We've been divorced for years. I no longer have anything to do with that life. But she seems to think it normal. I am trying to lead by example and since I left her father haven't looked back and life is peaceful. Her father is a dominant presence in her life.
Any advice would be gratefully received.

Where to start.

The weed needs to be addressed first and foremost.

Signed off sick?
for how long?

I am surprised she has a job given what you describe

I’ve been in an ongoing “battle” about weed with DD for years now, it has its up and downs.

Frankly, I’d start by not subsiding her staying at home doing nothing. Make it so that she has to work/study. Yes, she may or may not have ADHD, but most adults with ADHD are capable to stay employed - why is she off sick and was she sleeping well before being off sick? Where is she getting the money for weed?

I’ve had to sit down DD many times about pottering around during the night because while I understand sleep problems (my sleep only settled in my adult years when I started working FT) she was making it so that I just kept waking up with all the noise. We live in a flat so there’s not a lot of room to escape each other.

Sadly about her father it’s a lesson she might have to learn the hard way. Drug use is so normalised that I doubt her or her friends see him as a problem.

Is she on medication for her ADHD?