Paying your way

[PAC69]

My DS is coming towards the end of his 4 year apprenticeship, his take home pay is 1.6k. He pays £200 'keep' and covers his own personal bills. It used to be £100 per month when he was earning less. I know it's not a lot but he is saving hard for his own property and we'd still have this size home and these costs without him here, so I consider them our costs not his. In his 4 years he has saved just over £50k which he'll definitely need which house prices as they are.

Not sure what your question is?

Or are you just wanting to tell us your ds has miniscule life expenses - travel to work, lunches, social life, clothes, holidays, learning to drive, hobbies, etc?

If it works for you then that's great.

What are you asking OP?

In a similar position asking the same amount from youngest at home but he earns 40k PA. I don’t really need to charge anything but it’s a life lesson that nothing is free. What’s your financial position? and well done to him for saving so much.

I didn't charge mine a penny because I could afford not to, but not everyone is in my fortunate position. So many struggling to make ends meet with the crazy price rises, everyone is doing there best for their kids that I know, but many do not have your, or my resources. It doesn't make us "Better parents".

£200 to the household, plus him covering his own bills, is absolutely fine. Possibly maybe he could up it to £250, but it's more or less fine as it is, as far as I can see.

At least he is saving well. My 20 yr d s was doing great until he got embroiled with his girlfriend since June who is on benefits. Meanwhile he plans to buy a 4 bed house in a cheap part of East Mids rent out as hmo rooms and relocate to Essex in five more years aged 25. I think he is dreaming as he only earns 26k and I cannot be a guarantor as my income is very low indeed. His dad cannot help as he is on pension credit and we live separately.

it is causing a lot of arguments so we have now agreed to no longer talk about it. Of course a lot can change in five years and most likely his girlfriend won't last! He only has 7k now but they did go away on holidays plus his car needed a lot of work.

Sounds like your son is doing fine.

What’s the question OP? You’ve just told us your situation .

Your proud of yourself and your ds, but can't say it out loud?