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[Enjoylife1967]

Hi new here and pretty hopeless with technology so hopefully I'm doing this right.
Is there anyone out there who has an adult child who is married and they have taken on a different religion at the same time and as a mum is experiencing difficulties in their relationship with their child due to the changes?

You might get more responses if you give a bit of detail about the situation you are dealing with, then people can give more specific advice.

Thanks for advice.
My son converted to Muslim faith to be able to marry his partner. They had a baby earlier this year and are living abroad. I have literally begged for a photograph of my grandson but have never been given one. I understand that the Muslim faith doesn't allow photos to be shared on social media but I am just looking for them to print one and send it to me in the mail just for myself to have while I can't see him. I'm unsure whether it is a personal choice to decide not to even give a printed photo to immediate family or if it is still not permitted in the faith.
Basically I just can't understand why my son won't give me a photo of my grandson. It just hurts so much.
If anyone can shed any light on this topic I would be grateful.
Thanks

That does sound difficult. What was your relationship like before your DS moved abroad?

Do you ever speak in the phone or via FaceTime?

Thanks for taking the time to reply 😊
We have always been very close, and I know that when our boys get married, mums tend to get left behind a lot, but it's obviously different for me as my son is living abroad.
The issue I was trying to get across was whether or not anyone on here knows if there is a rule in Islam faith that says I, as a babys grandma, cannot have an actual physical photo of my grandson as this is what my son is telling me. I don't want to think that it's my son that is making that decision himself, so I'm just trying to eliminate any other possible reasons.

I've just googled the question and AI and a couple of the first websites which appeared said, yes,Grandma can Have a physical photo

I have tried asking Google but haven't found a straight answer easily, so anyway, thank you for that info 'whimscallyprickly'. I guess I will need to have words with my son when he visits 🤔

Will you be visiting them at all?

theres no rule against that, but it depends how strict he’s practicing the religion I guess. Some places/families are more strict than others.

Yes I am visiting in the new year which will be amazing to see them

Hello, there is no rule according to Muslim belief that says you can or can't share photos online and there definitely isn't one about giving a physical photo to a grandmother (or anyone for that matter!). Some Muslims will be more 'strict' and say no to photos at all but this is the minority. Do you think your son is Muslim because he believes or did he just do it for marriage? He is probably feeling quite overwhelmed and trying to 'do the right thing' regarding Islam but its likely that he has very little knowledge of his new religion so give him time - he's had lots of big changes and will probably have moments where he wonders what just happened - new religion, marriage, new baby, new country etc. Have you managed to see a photo yet? Hopefully things will work out over time. I hope you enjoy the visit when you go :)

Thank you so much for your reply 'fouroclockrock'! My personal feeling as his mum, is that my son became Muslim to be able to marry the girl he fell in love with, and yes he has given the faith 100% in everything, but I do feel he is probably overwhelmed with it all. My sadness is just down to feeling like I've lust my son in a way and he doesn't seem to care that I'm hurting from the way he is treating me and the rest of our family with regards to the baby. I'm shocked at how he is behaving, it's just very difficult. In saying all that, I have now seen a photo which was sent back with my daughter in laws sister who was visiting and posted it on to me. It's not what I wanted but it's something for now.
They are coming home to visit in December now so I am looking forward to that. Thanks again for taking the time to reply and for the info. 😊