Really struggling with 19 year old son. He is adopted and now spending a lot of time with his birth dad who is a poor influence. He uses weed (sometimes cocaine) and is on probation. Birth dad lives with a partner and 4 kids but things seem chaotic and he keeps getting chucked out. Our son went there again yesterday and stayed the night there. A night and day have passed and he still hasn't made one call or text to say he wasn't coming home or that he is safe.
The evening before, he left our house at 1am and I was told he had been walking alone along a railway line for a few hours that runs on a high viaduct. Fortunately has a good friend who told me. He had sent photos of it. Our son is constantly threatening his friends and us that he will end it because life's not worth living. That's been going on for several years and he's using it to us and his friends in a manipulative way. He says it if anything doesn't go right for him.
He's using cannabis every day. I did take him to a local place for help because he got caught by police with a small amount. He said he didn't want to attend any kind of help/therapy.
He's been with same neurodisability consultant (ADHD, ASD) for years and she keeps trying to get him to attend clinic but he always refuses.
He pays £25 a week board from his Universal credit. He's now saying he won't pay until next month because he wants the money (obviously for cannabis).
I often find small amounts in his room. No effort made to hide it. The smell turns my stomach. He promises not to do it but it continues.
My husband and I are exhausted. Never know when he will turn up. We ask that he's back by midnight but he often arrives late.
I found a machete in his room a couple of weeks ago. It was totally rusted. When he went out, I got a taxi to an amnesty bin and disposed of it. He told me he had found it.
I am his appointee because of his neurodisability. That's the only thing that's making me carry on.
I can't see a positive future for him at this point. He is refusing to try part time work