Clingy adult child

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Hello,

Name change i'm looking on what time say to my eldest son, his wife and our grandchild keep inviting us out to different places, most weekends and during the holidays, we love the time with them but it's getting a bit clingy now, they don't ask us to pay but we'd like to not always be included in the plans.

What do I say to let them down gently we'd like to go after our own hobbies etc

Tia

To add, they don't get offended if we can't go out with them

Are you pretty hands on grandparents when you are with them all? Do they invite you so you are there to help them do you think? If so it could be they are just struggling a little and really could do with some help.

If not, and you don't think its a 'we have someone to help' situation then maybe they just really love your company. Maybe they think that you expect it and that they have got into a bit of a rut asking you and think you might be offended if they stop extending the invitation to include you? It could well be they would love to drop this too.

I think you should just approach the subject with them over coffee/lunch and just jokingly say something like 'you don't have to keep asking us every weekend you know?' Gauge the reaction.

I think you are lucky that you have them there and that they want to spend all this time with you, its lovely. But I get that some weekends you want to chill out, or do something just the two of you.

You say they don't get offended if you don't want to go so I would definitely just broach it with them and tell them that, as much as you love seeing them, that sometimes on weekends you have other things you would like to do.

I'm sure they will take it fine.

Hi, is this serious? Do you want genuine comments or are you just looking to start a controversial thread?

No magic answer to to your post.

In fact, if you read your message you’ll see you have answered your own question…your conversation with your son can be as direct as you wrote in your post or you might soften your communication to avoid hurt feelings.

Easy. Just decline every second invitation, saying you are busy with your hobbies. Organise some nights out with your own friends.

Gradually increase until you're happy with the split. I'm not sure why this is difficult.

Some may view this as a stealth boast!