Hi, I'm in need of some advice, I've been struggling a lot lately with my living situation. My son who is now 23 lives at home with me and his dad. About 2 years ago he met his first girlfriend who live about an hour away on the train. My sons girlfriend has a rocky relationship with her family. After about 6 months of them being together all our son went on about is his girlfriend moving in. Me and his dad were not sure as we didn't think he would be ready for a full on relationship living together. Plus we both work full-time and I didn't want teenagers bumming around all day at home while we work our butt's off to pay the bills. After about a year the girlfriend got kicked out so she had to come and move in with us. We weren't too happy about this but we thought we had to give it ago. We had 2 conditions both have to work full time and both have to chip in around the house. We told them they dont have to pay any rent but both have to save hard so they have money to get their own place eventually. Its been about 18 months since the girlfriend has moved in. Its been hell, me and my partner always have to step in and get them to help. Nothing is done unless we ask. Her hygiene was not good, we had to tell her to make sure she washes, wash clothes. She doesn't do the house work very well so I would have to go over things. It feel like it's all half arsed. The jobs have been all over the place, it feels like we are constantly pushing because they dont have the motivation to do things themselves. It feels exhausting. The girlfriends hours got cut so she looked for another job after we pushed her. The new job is part time so again we have to step in and say you need more hours. I have tried so so hard to make her feel welcome but it feels like a never ending cycle. Help, please