Son does help with money

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My son Has amental health problem plus he has physcal problems as well he doesnt work but gets benefits. He refuses to talk about paying anything towards household income he gets angry and violent.Dont think he will be able to cope with living on his own,he has no concept of how much money goes out on bills a as i have tried to explain it to him but then he gets angry.I am a lone parent at 65 nearly 66 i am not working as i health problems too.Any suggestions in my situstion.

My son does not paid me board

Is there any other friends or family that could talk to him about money. Does he spend money or just accept that you buy everything. Don’t know if there are any organisations that can help him to realise he has to pay towards his keep, bills and food.

I’m in a very similar situation and working hard to get my son to move out.

Speak to Adult Social Services and ask them to create a care plan for your son including somewhere to live and the support he needs

You need to speak to adult social services.

Do you know where the money is going?

To echo what everyone has said, adult social services and working towards moving him out before he sends you to an early grave. What he’s doing is abusive, even if unintentional.

There’s another thread running at the moment where posters are suggesting that the OP contacts SS and starts the process of getting her DS into supported living. I think it’s time that you started this process now too. You’re too ill to work and he’s violent. That’s no way for you to live.

I would request a Carer’s Assessment today

This from Mind has some information on asking for a Carer’s assessment.

I would contact Adult SS too and tell them that he is being violent and needs supported living.

If you’re in a HA home, i would talk to your Housing Officer too and ask for help in getting him supported living.