Ds girlfriend 18 advice as soon as possible

[Carol52]

Ds girlfriends 18 I said I would give some money towards a glamping trip. I told him a few weeks ago and said we would have a look. I also said a day at the races with a meal but he has not mentioned or looked at anything. He just assumed I would sort it all out first him. Now he is getting annoyed at be for not sorting it out. I feel it was not totally my responsibility as I was only giving him fine money towards it. Am I being nasty lately I feel I am just getting on his nerves any help

Frig that OP! She is not your girlfriend. Let him sort it out for himself. My son at 15 could sort out birthday gifts himself. Why are you paying?? Then the cheek of him to be rude to you.

He sounds spoiled as hell, OP.

I'm sorry for this, but he sounds like a spoiled brat. Why do you have to arrange day outs for him and his girlfriend?

Well you just assumed he would sort out his own dates and that he’d say thank you for any contribution you made. Tell him so and get on with your life. Why on earth do you care if the annoying little toad is disappointed?

It’s because I said I would contribute and I would look hit him but I just have nit had the time

That's too much for them. Send them to camping with a tent, earn some money and pay for it themselves

You’re the OP who does t want him to go the RG uni an hour away because you’ll miss him aren’t you?

Frankly I’m surprised he’s got a girlfriend given how much you’ve infantilised him.

All sounds a bit odd but if he can't be bothered to plan it then don't pay for it. It's that simple and doesn't require urgent advice tbh.

Why are you paying for his girlfriend's birthday present? And why is it something so extravagant? Day at the races plus meal or glamping trip is maybe something her parents or grandparents might pay for. If you are well off and she's been his girlfriend for a while and you really like her, then maybe a necklace or other jewellery FROM YOU, but surely it's for him to pay for his own present to her? And you could help with suggestions but if he's old enough to have a girlfriend then he's old enough to plan source and pay for it! This is just nuts!

If you've told him you were going to book it and you haven't, I can see why he'd be frustrated, but that doesn't change the fact that you shouldn't be doing stuff like this for him in the first place. Give him the money and let him sort it.

How are things now @Carol52? Did DS manage to arrange anything?