Drink! How to handle?

[duvet]

Just come home from work to discover half a bottle of red wine gone. My DD 19 ADHD has probably drunk, she doesn't even like red wine, she's done this before just helps herself to our drinks on occasion, when we're out in the day. We always share it with her when we have a drink of an evening so no issue there.

I've told her when it's happened before, because one time she went ott and threw up so we said it wasn't a good idea to just help herself when she's home alone and that she wasn't to do that. It's not a regular occurrence but I still want to deal with it!
We have begun to hide things away which I dislike doing but not sure what is the best approach! Any advice please, I feel really annoyed at the moment especially as she's just rung and asked for a lift home!

Ask her to replace it?

This is really unhealthy behaviour OP and I’d keep any alcohol locked or hidden away from her. It sounds like she has a big problem. Personally if it was just being taken for parties etc then I could live with it but day drinking on her own is quite alarming.

”it’s not a regular occurrence” so I’m not sure we can jump to “she’s an alcoholic” quite yet.

She has ADHD OP - ADHDers are impulsive and therefore struggle to control impulses. If you don’t want her to drink your alcohol, and she doesn’t seem to be able to not do it, I’d lock it away for that reason. I’d get her to replace the alcohol she drank. Take away the temptation!

Be aware that ADHDers are also risk takers, and that with the impulsivity means they are more likely to drink alcohol, take drugs, and therefore develop addiction issues. The latter isn’t a given though, just something to be aware of as a greater risk.

I think you need to read my post again as I never said she was an alcoholic. I just said that she has a problem - which she quite obviously does considering what has happened. If her ADHD is severe enough that she lacks the impulse control to not get drunk in the middle of the day then her access alcohol certainly needs to be restricted.

Thanks, like I say we had already begun to put things out her way, I guess we'll have to have to be more vigilant. Not so easy when it's a drink to be kept in the fridge!
yes the impulsivity is an issue with her with regard to other things too. It's hard to guage how much to hold her accountable for these things. She's still young but She wants to be treated like an adult then she also needs to learn! Thanks for the replies.

What does she normally do in the day @duvet? Is she working?

She works on/off in charity shop & is looking for work. as Pp has said she acts v.impulsively! No more drink incident since but Monday she lit up a cigarette in her room!!! She knows this a massive no! We were so cross, smell is gradually fading! She has ADHD medication but doesn't always take it, although it helps I can't force her.

So difficult isn’t it. Can she do more shifts in the Charity Shop or maybe add in an additional voluntary role like maybe the foodbank?

What’s she doing for self regulation? We talk a lot about things that help us regulate. Is she doing any kind of exercise?

Actually yes she does foodbank too, but again can be hot & miss. Her impulsivity has got her into trouble in part time jobs she's had too.
She's been to a couple of clubs but something happens & she takes offence & then doesn't.Which is sad as one she used to regularly but pride means she will not return. Thanks for replying @BunnyRuddington I will try talking some more about self regulation.