What do you do about meals with adult dc?

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I have 3 dds, 24, 22 and 18. Older two are back at home after university.

The consensus is that I generally cook a family meal. They work full time and I’m only 2 days/week. Older two each cook for the family once a fortnight.

We don’t have a set time for dinner, usually somewhere between 7-8pm. I send out a message on our family WA group to tell them them time. However a) sometimes they don’t see it, b) I still have to remind them, c) it makes me feel like I’m running a restaurant.

I want to change things. I’m thinking of telling them all to just come down at 7pm every day (assuming they’re home) and if dinner is not ready yet, they can lay the table, help out or just chat.

Do you think this sounds ok? Or any other suggestions?

I cook every night as I'm first home at 4.30 and dinner is at 6.30/6.45. Both adult DC are usually in the gym at this time so DD (22) eats when she's back and DS (24) batch cooks his own as he's on some high protein/weigh everything diet. Occasionally it works that we're all around the table!
Left overs are taken for lunch next day or frozen.
DH & DC clear up.

We had a gong!! My partner makes fun of me saying how posh we were but our house was massive and there was no other way of calling us down 🤣

Husband does the shopping. Kids and I do the list.

they mostly cook turn and turn about and we get take away once a week. They’re 14, I won’t be cooking for adult children all the time!

If she's doing all the bloody cooking it's perfectly reasonable

A tannoy is your best friend.

I agree, it creates social cohesion if everyone sits down together once a day.