Please bear with me, this is long and confusing:
In May this year on the advice of social care and school, I removed my nephew from my sister and BIL's care. He's 18.
There seems to have been a very troubled, difficult few years between them. He has gone from being the best of the best in their eyes, to being thrown out repeatedly. He has become violent and drinks "to forget and cope".
He's previously left 3 times before this and every time my sister has demanded him home. On the 3rd occasion he asked to be removed and admitted he'd been suicidal.
This time, I collected him after him twice running away and me going to find him. Social care agreed that to get him through his A levels this was the best route. School agreed.
I have spent days researching support for them all. Him to have someone to talk to, my sis and BIL to get support to be able to manage him and their other daughter and to begin putting their family back together.
No one wants to do anything, they won't even call to get support (both very professional, intelligent people).
My nephew is manipulative, rude and thinks he can pull the wool over everyone's eyes. He wants everything is own way. There's been no boundaries and now he's 18 he thinks he can do what he likes, living in someone else's home and ruining 5 other lives.
What would you do? How do you manage this? I suspect there is a neurological issue. He refuses any support and just wants to go to uni and never to return in September. His parents are funding accommodation and a small weekly budget.