DS is 18. For the last 3 years, he's been involved with drink & drugs to various levels. He had 9 months of sobriety last year then badly fell off the wagon.
It started when my mum died very suddenly. He & she were extremely close & being 15 etc, he just bottled it all up. Then he started coming home drunk, then high.
Suicide attempt whilst still at school, scraped his GCSE'S.
We've been in a&e over a dozen times in the last 12 months, never mind what I've managed at home. Ketamine & booze are now his weapons of choice, with occasional coke & 2cb (where he nearly died) too.
Last night, he went to his friends birthday party, which he ruined by picking up & then collapsing by 7pm. Another ambulance, another a & e stint.
Im so tired. He's being selfish & arrogant & doesn't seem to care about the damage he's causing. I begged him not to go out today but he walked out & I know he'll have stolen alcohol from somewhere, picked up ket & be out of it. He does have a tracker on his phone so I can see where he is but I haven't called him.
He was getting money from a job, having quit college due to accusations made by his ex which he's still under investigation for.
I know a lot of this is addiction but right now, I don't like him, he's destroying our family & dd is struggling. My ex H won't help and actually used the phrase "to me he's already dead & i won't cry at his funeral"
Ex only moved out 7 weeks ago & I thought the 3 of us were in a stronger happier place.
I don't know where to turn. He has an under 25 substance abuse worker who he sees weekly. He's been referred to several MH bodies who have all said they won't help until he's sober.
He says he takes the drugs to "shut his brain up" & to get away from the mental health stuff.
I don't want him on the streets but I don't think he can be here either.
Has anyone got any advice, support, been I'm anything near the same? I feel like I've failed him
I've posted this in teenagers too, as he's 18 & I'm desperate.