Not sure if I aibu

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Just back from holiday with my 25 year daughter . Every day there is some drama , I move her pony tail to put sunscreen on her back , she says how dare you pull my hair , which I wasn’t then pulls my pony tail . Another morning she says didn’t sleep well as felt sick , at breakfast I get two oranges for her sibling who had sore throat and get told I make her feel awful and I don’t care . I praise and support her a lot but when I go on holiday every time there is drama .

Probably time to start holidaying separately?

I’d leave her at home. Does she know you feel this way?

She sounds extremely childish and ungrateful.

Needs time and space to grow up.

Distance is the answer with this one, leave her to it alone.

Don’t holiday with her.

i do feel your pain though - I paid for my two (both 24) to come to Greece with me recently because they’ve had a tough time and bloody hell did I get some behavooir.

not doing that again.

We stopped vacationing with ours when they were at uni because they’d ruined too many holidays by arguing and sulking. We are off on a big holiday at Christmas and dreaded them coming because of past experience, but as they are both adults we asked them to pay for their flights. They both decided not to come. The relief we felt! They can (and do) go on their own holidays now.

She’s being childish and ridiculous. Have a talk to her about it and be clear you won’t accept her rude behaviour . It must be exhausting. Because she’s an adult all you can do is talk to he like an adult and ask her too stop and if she doesn’t reduce your time with her. Does she work?live away from home?

If my DD pulled at my hair any age after… let’s say 10 to give it some room we’d have a big, big problem.

Doing this at the big age of 25 is far from normal. Cut the invites and let her fund her own holidays.

What did you do when she pulled your hair?