Ds is 25, lives in a city an hour.
We're in contact throughout the week via WhatsApp, surface stuff, wordle results, how's the dog etc
We see each other once or twice a month.
We found out through a friend's son that ds had been arrested for assault a month ago, and the charges were dropped.
This is the second time in 6 months that we know where he has been in an altercation and police involved.
Last year he was jumped by a man coming home from a night out, so he punched him in the face which knocked him out. The police came and he was held but released without charge.
He told us sometime last year he has a problem with anger where he feels like he can't control himself screaming at people, and he's lost friends because of what he's said in that moment.
We offered to get him counselling but he minimised it, said he'd been feeling tired and hungry when he spoke to us.
He says it's none of our business, he doesn't want to worry us but of course we do, especially now that it's escalated to actually being arrested.
He used to be a friendly, charming character but we've noticed a change over the last year, especially when he drinks, a mean, arrogant argumentative side.
I want to say something to him about looking at how he's behaving and does he need help, to but I don't know how to approach him.