Been no contact for 2 years. My father cut me off after I confronted him about his affair, and it was tearing my mother apart. Eventually my mother decided to stay with him, but he never sorted things out with his kids. He was angry that I dared to stand up to him. Roll on 2 years and he then sent a message asking to meet up. I was hopeful that he had had time to think and wanted his family back, but it became clear that his motive was to get assurance we (his kids) will look after him if he becomes ill. He got annoyed when I explained that we needed to repair the damage first and try to heal, and then when I recounted what happened and told him how I felt, he called me a liar. At that point I explained that I can’t sit there while he calls me a liar, and he called me a liar again. My sister got up and left and so did I.
i’ve heard nothing since. I hoped he would reflect and apologise. But he hasn’t. Nothing from my mother either. I thought she might want to hear from me what happened. But nothing. Really sad.