Final year A levels

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im just wondering if anyone can help. I have an 18 year old daughter and my husband and I have totally different parenting styles. He’s authoritative and shouts and I’m the opposite and probably too laid back. The level of arguing between us over our daughter is off the scale. She’s in her final a level year and is just not interested in studying and wants to go and see her friends all the time. My husband wants her to stay in and study all the time, impose curfews at the weekend and wants to know where she is all the time. We are all just arguing all three of us all the time over it. He is getting annoyed and shouting at me for not being a good parent, I’m getting annoyed at him for blaming me and shouting at me and my daughter and it’s just ruining all the relationships. I hate conflict and it makes me just want to escape. Has anyone else had this?? And what advice can you give? Thank you 🙏🏻

He sounds dreadful and controlling.
She should be taking charge of her own studying by this age.
Is she going to Uni? What does he think will happen then?
Does she like her subjects?

Your home sounds hellish.

You can take a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. You can enter a child for exams but you can’t write it yourself.

I understand where your husband is coming from, up to a point. But your DD has to want to study herself. Maybe all sit down and work out a halfway plan , ie she studies for 2-3 hours per night and has her weekends free to see friends?

I have the opposite problem. DC studies all the time (also Yr 13) but had no real social life. If only half-study/half-socialise worked for everyone.

Alternatively, sit her down and discuss what she is going to do when she fails her A levels and all her friends are at uni by October?

Assuming she's applied to uni, what grades does she need and in what subject?

Agree with the comments about your "D"H. Saying that you are a bad parent when he's shouting and arguing all of the time is outrageous behaviour.

I've only had one do A'Levels. They treated it pretty much like a 9 to 5 job and did most of their work in the day.

What's your DD doing in her free sessions? Is she working hard then or is she seeing friends during the day also?