Returning a present

[BrightLeader]

My daughter has just messaged me to say that the grooming kit I sent to my son in law for Christmas is not wanted & can it be sent back as he already has one. It was from an exclusive Scottish supplier & not a run of the mill one. Do you think it would be unreasonable for me to reply that if not wanted perhaps they could keep it & regift it. I personally wouldn't dream of offending anyone in this manner & would graciously say thankyou keep it & pass it on. Also do you think I should reply to him & not her. It was sent to him after all.

Your daughter messaged, so reply to her.
I would be happy they felt they could say. Far better to return it than for you to have wasted your money and it end up in the charity shop. In this day and age I don’t think it’s offensive at all, so many people are all trying to reduce waste in all sorts of ways. Unsold charity shop donations end up in landfill.

My mother would be delighted if a gift wasn’t left go to waste and was swapped for something of use. She wouldn’t take it at all personally.

Do I get the feeling there’s a backstory and you don’t like your SIL, OP?

This is rather rude. I'd take it back, return it for a refund, keep the money for myself and not buy them anything else!

I would see if it could be returned and they can send it to the company directly. It was a kind gift but it's good your daughter is comfortable enough to mention it's a duplicate gift.

Sometimes people just get duplicates. I would rather return and get something else than for it to be wasted/regifted. At least your daughter is asking instead of not being able to. My father in law send crap gifts but no way could we ask for the receipts to exchange

For me it would depend on the wording.

I do think it’s nice that she feels comfortable in telling you the truth - maybe it can returned/swapped for something different?