What would you do?

[SillyOchreSheep]

Question of the day…

If you were a young person living with their mum and suddenly found out she has a secret boyfriend who she is planning to get married to… and she doesn’t know that you know… what would you do?

Asking for a friend

That seems odd. Why the need for so much secrecy?

Part of me thinks she'll tell you when she's ready. Another part of me thinks I'd ask her if she has a boyfriend. But that depends how you found out too.

I can’t really. I’ve seen messages from him appear on her phone. I haven’t been on her phone, just seen them on the home screen. She wrote in a notebook that she left open that she’s thinking about marrying him.

It could just be a fantasy on her part, the marrying bit. He might not be on the same page.

I think I'd just casually ask, "Hey Mum, whose x? I've seen some messages pop up on your phone when it's been lying around and haven't heard of him."

Is she thinking about it or is she planning it? There’s a massive difference.

If you’re worried about it or the implications it has on you, you’re better off asking directly. I’d also feel a bit concerned about marriage being already an option with someone the family doesn’t even know yet, but she is an adult.