Partner is out most evenings

[AliSxo]

We have a 3yo who's in school nursery, we both work full time with partner having his own business and I work for a company,

Partner wants to go out most evenings and whole days at the weekend to golf practice, physio, gym etc and doesn't think it's unreasonable, I get it's not a huge ask but if I was also out the same amount nothing would get done at home and we'd be passing ships.

My mental health has been tough recently and I'm in counselling once a fortnight, seems like I'm struggling to catch a break or time to myself but partner makes lots of plans for himself which means I'm often left doing bedtime, tidying up and packing nursery bag for the next day,

He doesn't think it's unreasonable to be out 3 evenings a week and a full day at the weekend but it's taking its toll as I work full time and our 3yo is wild and bedtimes aren't always easy,

There comes a point with self care and therapy that you have to ask yourself "are you surrounded by assholes?".

Lose the bloke, get childcare and some sanity back.

Need this thread moved to relationships too.

OP most selfish self absorbed people don't think they're being unreasonable. They love doing their own thing and letting other people pick up the pieces.

Unfortunately for Mr Me, he has a child and a struggling partner so he needs to shape up.

Lay it on the line and tell him what he's about to lose if he doesn't grow up. I'm sure you both need a break and you can compromise and come up with a schedule that works for both of you.

Join a gym; it's great for your mental health.

I think you need to tell him too. Maybe explore with your Therapist how you would do that.