Hi! For many, many years, my mother has had illnesses, none of which are ‘very bad’ but frequently end up with her in hospital, usually for a few hours or a night, inevitably with something mild being diagnosed which she will state she was given morphine for. This has happened so very many times over the years I don’t take it very seriously, she is always quickly well afterwards. My stepdad always enables this. He took great care of his elderly mother for many years until she passed, and now I feel he almost enjoys taking care of my mother during these times when she is ill. Something nearly always happens when I’m on vacation, and they deliberately don’t tell me until I’m home & they are always ‘terrified’ someone will tell me while I’m away. When I return, they literally cannot wait to tell me. My stepdad will always say she was much more unwell than she’s admitting to. If I’m not on vacation & something happens, he will make a huge deal about my Mum insisting he not phone me at work because he knows I’ll ‘worry myself sick’. They seem to love the drama of it all. I know it will get worse as they continue to age. Am I being an absolute horror of a daughter?? She gets lots of attention from me, it can’t be that! How can I deal with this better? It makes me upset & angry.