Inspired by the empty nest thread below, I wondered if anyone would like to start a thread of tips and learnings and shared experiences?
oh that’s how I de bold!
like everyone else, I’ve just realised I’ve lost myself, with DD leaving abruptly. I’m being a bit useless, sad and stuck, which is no good for an increasingly remote DS , 16, or for a DH who is kancakered and stressed and sleeps all the time!
Im working on being upbeat and Getting Things Done, which I’m finding super hard atm. So I wondered if maybe we could support each other?
On the later pages of the theread below a poster mentions how she’d just like to be mothered as it’s so tiring mothering everyone else. maybe we could ‘mother’ each other. I could certainly do with someone saying,’well done!’ Occasionally!
Buddha at sea posted this, which I found very inspirational, thanks Buddha! I am assuming it’s ok to repost it here, as we are on the same thread.
please join in with tips or what works perhaps.
right! Inspired, I am off to not hang about waiting for DH to want coffee, I am going to make my own coffee in my own cup and make A Plan, starting with how on earth I can make this house nicer to be in. And also follow up on buddhas idea of meeting girlfriends twice a month. I shall invite someone round for coffee today. There!
BuddhaAtSea · 21/08/2023 14:54
Welcome to the club 😂
I had no idea if I actually like the food I always cooked. As in, I’d make an omelette because it is quick, nutritious etc, but faced with making one just for myself brought the question: do I actually even like omelette?
Been accommodating others for 50 years, I tended to just go with whatever the others in my life wanted/liked.
I also had a jolt seeing myself in a reflection of a window. My body shape and colour has changed so much. Who the hell is that woman?!!
I always fantasised about having time to myself to do whatever. I have it now, and had no idea what I actually want to do.
My biggest problem was my job, so I focused on that for a bit, got a promotion and changed my finances significantly.
I went on Instagram! to see what people my age wear. I had my colours done.
I joined a running club, I am doing parkrun regularly.
I joined the gym.
I took photography classes, calligraphy classes, sea kayaking holidays. Basically, I am trying everything and see what sticks.
I remained quite strict about family time though, I have a meal once a week with DD, although she doesn’t live with me.
And my girlfriends and I still meet twice a month: once for brunch and once for a game of cards and wine.