If you had a girl and then boy...?

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How did it turn out?

I'm convincing myself that a third is not required as I don't want my son to be a middle child.

Feel like there are so many cons with having a third but I also worry that I should give them another sibling.

How is life with 2, once or each? Did they stay close? Did they still get on? Are they still close into adulthood?

I think it's very unusual to regret a third child because holidays are a bit trickier!

I mean, don't have a third child if you don't want one, but for me the joy of another child just doesn't register on the same scale as it being a bit complicated because we can't all fit in a family hotel room.

I have seen so many families over the years (personally and professionally) there is no logic to how close siblings will be in adulthood. My 2 older siblings for example (DB/DS) were thick as thieves as kids, inseparable, but not in adulthood at all.

Have a 3rd if it is truly what you desire, but not for any 'benefit' to your other DC, and for no other reason than you really want to parent another DC.

What do you mean how did it work out? Surely it depends on the people involved?

Im a girl with a younger brother. See each other a couple of times a year. Not close

My kids..adults. girl then boy. Super close

I wouldn't want a third simply because I can't be bothered going back to square 1, the baby stage etc all over again. At least now that I'm done I can somewhat start getting my life back! Mine are 2 & 5

I’m the oldest of three. Girl - boy - girl. No idea why, given they had one of each, my parents had another one, lol (and I get on fine with my sister). I hate being one of three, there’s always the opportunity for ganging up, having an odd-one-out, etc.

I am female with an older brother- we are and have always been close.

I have a DD who is 18 and a DS who is 16. They are close. They don’t always hang out together but they don’t row or wind each other up. They tell each other stuff they don’t want to talk to us about (relationships stuff mainly) which I really like. I’m glad they have that avenue for support. They also team up to take the piss out of DH and I, which I think is exactly how it should be as my brother and I did the same to our parents 😂

I don’t think sex, age gap or birth order necessary has a bearing on how well siblings will get on. It’s mostly luck and personality type.

Why do they need to have "a lifelong relationship"? They either will or they won't - both are fine, and it's down to individual personalities. I'm not sure that having 2 or 3 children makes any difference to that.

I’m the oldest of 3, girl boy girl, too. DB is 2 years younger & DS 4 years younger.

As kids I just found them annoying most of the time & mainly left them to it, though they mainly got on well. DS & I started getting on better when I went to university.

Nowadays DS & I are very close & even go on holiday together occasionally. DB & I get on all right but have very little in common.

My parents each had to share a room with a sibling as kids & hated it so much that they always prioritised us having our own rooms, for which I’ve always been hugely grateful. I’m an introvert who spent a lot of my childhood holed up in my room with my books, & I think if we’d had to share our relationship would never have recovered. So that’s something else to consider.

I am an adult oldest child of two. My younger brother is one of my closest friends. ...

You can't predict these things. I know of brother/sisters who are close, some are not. I know of larger families where a couple of the kids are close to each other, but not the rest. My stepsons were at war with each other from about 5-17 years old, now in their 30s are good friends. I know others who still all live in the same house but barely say a word to each other.

My DD is 25 and DS is 23. They annoyed each other in their early teens but now they get along just fine.

I had a girl and then a boy and they're adults now. I think it's only about personality. Mine are polar opposites and have nothing in common other than their parents. They were never close in fact I had to sometimes feed them in separate rooms as the bickering wore me down. No surprise that they aren't close as adults. Ex h and I were opposites so I can't be too surprised.

Who wouldn't prefer this for their children? Obviously I'd rather mine were close.