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Heartbroken... Feel devastated, My youngest is leaving home!

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PoppyNala · 30/10/2023 20:48

I was reading another lady's post on the same issue which prompted me to start a new threat because I am not coping very well... I'm crying my eyes out as my son is about to leave home this week. He is leaving this week and today it hit me as if someone smashed a brick in my face. I have to learn to let him live his life and become independent, and I really want this for him, and just never knew I would feel like this! Im devastated. As he walked out the door to go out for the evening, he knew I was trying to hide the sadness and hugged me, he is always so concerned, looking out for me and making sure I am ok. My connection with my youngest, just like yours is one of friendship, love, and genuine care, besties. I knew this time would come one day I just never faced it, never prepped myself for the grief that I'm feeling., and he hasn't even actually left yet. It's a real thing, I found out today that it is called 'Empty nest syndrome'. I'm literally broken. I'm trying to keep it together in front of him, as I don't want him to feel guilty, I want him to feel supported. I wish I had spent so much more time with him. I'm feeling incredibly regretful, as a single mum, I have had to work so hard to keep us together as a family with no support. If perhaps I didn't have to work I could have spent so much more time with all my children, but I have been so tired at times. I have spoken to another friend who has told me how she felt for a very long time after her son left, so I know what is to come! I'm not looking forward to this at all! Everyone, my close friends and some family would take the Micky saying how I would be when this time would come, and I would play it down, but they were absolutely right! I can't articulate myself very well atm. My heart actually hurts

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grafittiartist · 30/10/2023 20:49

This will be happening to me next summer- and I am dreading it!
It's such a change and a new chapter.
One that I don't really want.
Solidarity.

way2serious · 30/10/2023 20:54

I feel for you so much. I managed my son being away at university but now dread him wanting to move out permanently. We are away at the moment and I miss him much to DPs amusement!

ScarlettDarling · 30/10/2023 21:01

Ah lovely, it sounds so hard. I miss my ds so much when he’s away at uni, I know how sad lll be when he moves out properly.
But at the same time I have to remind myself that I’d hate for my dc to be tied to my apron strings and still be living at home when they’re 50! We want them to live their own lives but it’s so hard to not feel a pang when you remember holding their chubby little hands what seems like only five minutes ago 😢
It’s so hard.

Tev · 26/09/2024 23:36

l am so sorry to hear that your son has moved out l walked out on my son when he was 6 years old l only got him back in my life he is under the care of his cousin until he is 25 me and his cousin didn't get on he come for Xmas stayed for 8 months she took him back on Saturday and all l am doing is crying don't want to eat or anything

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