I was a single mother of 2 children, my daughter, now 34 and my son now 31. Their father was not in their life growing up and was not interested at all. I worked full time and worked an extra job on the evenings too to make ends meet. I did not receive a single penny from their father and they received nothing from him too not even a birthday card! They were age 4 and 1 when I left him because he was violent and had a problem with alcohol …. I worked very hard to give my children everything even a private education and lots of support and love. … My daughter is divorced with a 14 year old son. He was 18 months old when my daughter got divorced. I took him to nursery and school for 7 years and looked after him a lot and did everything I could to help her even paid for his 1st year school fees to help her out. Just a little background on our life. I have planned a holiday next year with my husband and want my children and grandson to come too as it’s a big birthday. However my daughter said she will only come if her dad can go too! Seeing as it’s the country where his ancestors were from. I haven’t had anything to do with him for 25 years and I have remarried with a living husband of 10 years. My son doesn’t want much to do with his dad as he was never there for him and my husband hasn’t really met him either. …. Initially she said she could not really afford it and also won’t have much holiday left and that she didn’t feel like she wanted to go because I did not give her time to think about it… i gave her 15 month’s notice…so I offered to pay for my grandson so she only has herself to pay for. But she never replied to that offer… she has now got her son to message me saying … mum will only come on holiday if her dad can ho too! It’s my birthday celebration that’s totally been ignored and has made it all about what she wants out of the holiday. I’m so hurt and I don’t know how to handle this