Hi
My son is 22, we've always got on really well and I thought we had a really good relationship but he's always struggled with motivation at school but now that he's working he has days where he just can't be bothered to go in, which is causing issues.
He's borderline ADHD and also can have quite bad low mood on occasions. I've always stuck up for him and as a family we got through school and college (just about) but every day was a struggle.
His attitude over the last year or so has changed, I know he's taken cocaine before because I found it, he said it was just a one off, I don't know if I believe him or not.
When he was younger I could get him up and out to school but now he towers above me and he just decides that some days that he's "not going to go to work because he doesn't want to".... My husband and I have worked full time since the age of 16, I just don't know where he gets the attitude from - it stinks.
It's got to the point where we really argue with him about it, he's going to end up losing his job but all he does it laugh at me which is so hurtful.
We argue so much that I feel like I want him to move out, he makes me cry and finds that amusing and as much as I love him with all my heart I can't continue to let him treat me the way he does.
He's even got punchy with his dad when things have come to blows.
I've always helped him out financially but that's stopped now and I've moved any bills that I was paying over to his account so things like his phone will soon stop if he doesn't have any money to pay for them - I'm hoping that will be a valuable lesson for him,
Has anyone else had any similar situations ? please tell me it gets better ?
I feel like an absolute mug right now because I've done everything for him in the past - so I've probably caused the whole situation.
Sorry, I'm not even really sure why I'm here telling you all about my issues but I just wanted to express how i'm feeling somewhere.
thank you for listening