My adult DD 23 and I have very little in common. She dresses very very casual, jeans, t shirt and throws on any old jacket. She never really bothers with her hair and recently had it cut. It doesn’t really suit her but I’d never say anything negative to her about it. She’s very sloppy in the way she does things, more like a young adult male than a female. Her bedroom is never tidy but I keep out of it. She’s not very feminine at all. I feel everything she is, I’m not and vice Versa. We suspect she’s on the autistic spectrum as she can be to the point. A couple of times she has hurt my feelings by being so direct.
I will always want the best for my daughter, but how do I let go of my expectations of her? I don’t want to feel this way, but I do and often feel a bit envious of mothers and daughters who go out together, ie shopping, days out knowing we will never do this.