Nest-squatters - adult children who cause problems by refusing to leave

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Please is there a peer support group for parents of adult children who are squatting in their parents home? My 38 year old son refuses to leave, contribute or work, spends his benefits on weed, and demands money from me. He is abusive and aggressive when I refuse money or raise the subject of him leaving. He has previously lived street-homeless for 2 years. I've seen articles about this issue, but it would be good to talk directly with parents who have had similar problems. I know many parents live in harmony with their adult children. I wish. Slainte.

Sounds very difficult. You could evict.

https://www.ehow.co.uk/info_12340040_evict-adult-children-uk.html

You poor thing, that sounds horrendous. Do you rent or own? If you rent is it a Housing Association? I'd talk to them about moving you. You don't say how old you are but maybe move to a retirement village? My DMs is over 55's and I'd move in, it's lovely.

You also sound very vulnerable, especially if he's threatening you for money. Do you have a SW?

Call the police if he’s being abusive, and get him kicked out.

Agree with DustyLee. If that’s too much for you, and if you have one, let Police Community Support know and ask if a PCSO can come round and have a word with you both. Basically to remind him he has to respect you and your home and that they can step in if he doesn’t.

And sorry you are living with this, that’s not on at all.

This is domestic abuse. You could contact Womens Aid. He is abusing you physically and financially. Have you any family that can assist you getting him out? He has to go even if that makes him homeless.

Thank you for your responses. In the short term my son has returned to a bedsit, but he hates it there. Previously he has had flats taken over by druggies. There does not seem to be an easy and complete solution. If he is street homeless it is stressful not knowing where or how he is. I am fortunate to have supportive family and friends. I was not aware of Womens Aid, I'll try contacting them. Slainte

If he's had his beds it's taken over by druggies, is he vulnerable? Does he have any additional needs?

I agree he sounds vulnerable :(

I don't understand, sorry. Is he living with you or in a bed sit?
If he is in a bed sit he has left.

How was he raised to be this way?

Downsize into a one bed flat / house so he is forced to make his own arrangements

In the short term my son has returned to a bedsit, but he hates it there.

Tough. If he came off weed and got a job, he could afford something better. Why's it on you to make him comfortable at his age?