My step son is 17, almost 18. He lives with me and my other 2 children who are 11 and 6. I separated from my husband 2 years ago but stepson decided to stag with me. Long story I was granted PR years ago due to issues with his mum. Anyway he loves with me and not his biological parents, I am obviously very happy that he chose to stay here.
However, he is bone idle!! He does attend college, they have broken up for the summer so will return in September. He sits in his room.all day on his xbox festering in his own filth. He literally doesn't move. I tell him to do jobs around the house such as hoovering, making sure that the dog and cats are let out regularly getting washing in etc. Nothing too taxing but he point blank refuses. I've told him that he needs to start thinking about getting a job even a Saturday job not only so he can have some independence but to get him out of the house. I have put him in touch with people that I know who are after lads for labouring etc and he has no interest in making an effort at all. The only time I see him is when food is ready or he wants money. The only money he asks for is money for vapes, which I have point blank refused to buy him.if he wants it he needs to earn his own money to get it.
It's so frustrating because he is very almost an adult and I worry that I just isn't going to cope in the big bad world. His mum and dad haven't got much work ethic about them, I have worked full time since leaving uni and worked since inwas 13 on Saturdays and in the evenings once I got older.
I am.at my wits end trying to get him to do something for himself. Things got to.me that much this week I contemplated taking the router to work with me just so that he would leave the house and socialise
Any advice??