Help to understand depression is adult son

[walkingwoods]

Are there any books / websites to help me try and understand my adult son.

I'm terrified of saying / doing the wrong thing and making things worse.

He's been to gp and they have suggested counselling but he's not sure he wants to go. Am I able to convince him to try or does that make things worse?

Should I suggest anti depressants?

I just want to help but have no idea how.

I found this book brilliant. It's not very exciting, as a read, but it is effective in helping recognise distorted thinking that can cause depression.

https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/46674

I think it's probably up to him what he does, although it can be hard to think clearly when one is depressed.

Medication can definitely help some people. I think often it's a case of trying various different things, and keep trying, until you find a combination of things that work.

Hello, I don't have much advice I'm afraid but there is text messaging service called Shout who he can text if he needs to talk. I've used it before and found it helpful. I can't remember the number off hand but google it if you think he would be interested in this. I would also suggest the counselling to him.

Sorry your DS is suffering @walkingwoods

Mind have some information on how to support other here.

Just let him know you are there for him. Make him laugh. Treat him normally. Give him a hug now and them.

My 25 year old son has never lasted longer than 2 months in a job he has mostly been unemployed, he either gives the job up or gets laid off for making mistakes etc. l know he wants to work though. He lies in his bedroom all day on his phone watching videos. He has stopped washing in the last couple of months. His bedroom is a terrible mess. My partner and him don’t get on and l think my son is scared of him as he won’t even come down to eat when he is there. I also found bottles in his room filled with urine. I have suggested he goes to the doctors but he won’t l try to cheer him up any way l can an be supportive but he seems to be sinking further in to depression. Please can someone advise am so worried about him.

Some counseling is over the phone so he doesn't have to leave the house if that's part of the problem??

Can y contact your local council and ask for social services for adult care??? He sounds very depressed to me. They might be able to offer some help. Good luck x