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Parents of adult children

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Daughter!

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petuniasandpetals · 03/04/2023 21:04

I don't know if I can even bring myself to write the words. My daughter has a great job but seems to be escorting on the side.
She doesn't know I know.
WWYD?

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ItsTrueLou · 03/04/2023 21:14

She's an adult

RightWhereINeedToBe · 03/04/2023 21:16

ItsTrueLou · 03/04/2023 21:14

She's an adult

Well obviously, but what mother in the world would find that out and just shrug and go 'well, she's an adult'?

Clementineorsatsuma · 03/04/2023 21:19

I would sit her down and explain what sex work is, and what it isn't. Then tell her how you feel about it.

flutterbyebaby · 03/04/2023 21:32

Seems to be, how have you come to that conclusion?

determinedtomakethiswork · 03/04/2023 21:33

I would be very upset by that. Do you have a good enough relationship with her at the moment where you could discuss it with her?

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petuniasandpetals · 04/04/2023 07:36

Her sister told me. It's not exactly sex work in that it involves only sitting and chatting to men at tables in bars. They pay for their drinks. But to me it's very seedy.
The men request the girls they want.
I can see how it's not very different to getting chatted up and sitting with the men.
She doesn't know I know and no I wouldn't be able to broach it with her. She doesn't know I know. She is late twenties, very headstrong.
I just wanted to know if I was over reacting...hopefully!

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Ishouldbeoutside · 04/04/2023 07:52

I would be horrified. It’s difficult to broach the subject though as you only know because her sister broke a confidence . Hopefully her sister might make her see sense.

ssd · 04/04/2023 08:58

Is the sister telling the truth?

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petuniasandpetals · 04/04/2023 11:00

Her sister has expressed her feelings - she thinks she knows best. Hey ho,

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6namechang3 · 04/04/2023 11:23

It is extremely unlikely that men are just paying to chat. I suspect that is just how the introductions are made legally. She will eventually come under pressure to provide more and will not get picked if she doesn't.

LBFseBrom · 04/04/2023 11:27

You say your daughter 'seems to be' working as an escort. Could you be wrong? There are agencies that employ women to act as 'hostesses' at events and sometimes that is confused with escorting.

It's best to ask her, op.

However if your worst fears are founded, what can you do? I certainly understand your concerns, most of us would feel the same, but I doubt you can change anything.

Good luck.

Useroneofmany · 04/04/2023 11:39

My daughter is a sex worker. She's a similar age to yours. She told me of all her friends doing the same thing who's parents know, have been disowned. It's not something I'm thrilled about but because we have a good relationship, she was able to tell me.
Can I stop her? No.
But I believe she is safer because I know about it, and being able to talk about it and what she does to keep herself safer is reassuring.
It's not easy, and I feel for you. My love for my daughter is unconditional, and while I hope that she starts making different decisions soon, I'm well aware that I can't control her choices.

LBFseBrom · 04/04/2023 12:24

It's sad when parents disown their children and I am very pleased to read that you are supportive of your daughter, Userone. I'm sure the op will be the same if her daughter is definitely an escort.

I wonder why escorting has become so popular in recent times, it could be because young people have to have such a huge deposit to buy a flat or house nowadays.

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