Soon and girlfriend

[Dreamlight]

My nearly 19 year old son has been dating his first girlfriend for just over 18 months. They are madly in love from what I can see, but I'm just a bit worried.

His girlfriend told me that she likely won't be able to have children due to gynae issues. I know that my son does want children of his own and he had told her so, but then said it's fine if it doesn't happen.

On a slightly different note, she is desperate to move out of her home and is trying to get my son to leave his and move in with her. So far he has resisted I am pleased about that, as he is just not ready yet.

I feel like I need to say something to him about these things, but actually wondering if I should just keep my nose out. Everything is screaming at me to talk to him, I guess I just think he's still too young to be so serious about life just yet and that he should live a little first.

What would you do?

He’s nearly 19, I’m not sure there’s anything you can do.

Depending on your relationship you could end up pushing him away. I’d personally leave it up to him.

He's 19.

They might last, they might not. Leave him to it. He already seems to know whatever you plan on telling him. He has the choice to leave if he desperately wants kids. He has the choice to stay if he's so in love with her.

Leave them to enjoy their happy relationship. If things progress and in the future they decide they want to live together and create a family, that's for them to decide and figure out. The GF said she couldn't have children, not that she didn't want them.

When you say you want to talk to your son about these issues, are you saying he doesn't already know about the children situation already? And whether he does or doesn't know, are you going to encourage him to finish the relationship on the basis she might not be able to have children naturally? Or persuade him not to live independently because you don't want him to leave home yet? What if he had decided to go to uni? He would have left home a year ago in that case.
He's an adult, you can't control what he does, when and who with.

Thank you for your comments,

I wasn't going to try and split them up or anything, more point out that he had choices and to make sure he wasn't pressured into anything he didn't want for himself.

I guess I was worried because I know what my son has told me and when his girlfriend was talking to me, she seemed very dismissive of his wishes.

You are right, we have brought him up right and I should trust he knows his own mind.