Perspective

[Weeviking]

Hi all,

Pondering a situation that I find myself in at the moment. I know 22 is an adult but if your 22 year old lived at home and took a 33 year old boyfriend home, what would you think? It seems a little off to me.

Anyone at all? The fact that he was 21 when she was 10 is disturbing me somewhat.

I never wanted my children to bring someone home to stay the night when they were actually living here. If they lived away from home and were in a proper relationship then it was different and they were welcome to visit and stay over. But while they were living with me I didn't want randomers staying over.

I agree with you though about their ages. The difference is really great. I know you will get tons of women on here saying they went out with men who were 50 years older than them, but I don't like it.

I appreciate they need to be able to have relationships as a young adult even while living at home. But it is the age gap that is the concern.
53 and 42 isn't so bad but this seems almost predatory at 22 and 33.

I’ve been there although dd did not bring him home overnight. She just stayed at his place. He was 30 and she was 20 but thankfully it didn’t last coz he was an absolute arse. He then moved onto a girl even younger than dd!
However, it nearly ruined my relationship with dd as I was so against it.
I understand what you are feeling.

It's fine ffs

Living at home with her parents no one should be bringing casual relationships/ONSs/hook ups over.

It's only polite to at least meet the parents over coffee or a meal first.

But they are well past childhood.

Appreciate they're not children but I find it creepy and weird

Agree that it's predatory. Has she got her contraception sorted?