27yo DD

[maddog1996]

My 27 yo daughter still lives at home working approx 30 hours a week . She is constantly asleep for eg she finished work at 3pm today got in at 4pm and went straight to bed . At 1730 I rang her to say I was on way home at 1745 I got in she was fast asleep in bed . She has just got up at 2245. She just cannot stay awake and it's the same every single day irrespective of her start time being 7am 9am 10am it's always the same .
She does very little in the home unless I ask her and never walks the dog. She is on anti depressants and has had every test under the sun for tiredness .
Myself and DH are at the end of our tethers as we don't know how to resolve this . She has no spare cash to move out and live alone and refuses to look for a full time job .
She has no partner and goes out drinking with friends occasionally .
I really really worry about how her life is panning out and worry for her future .
Any advice welcome

There must be an explanation for the tiredness as it is not normal. You sound like you think it's a lifestyle issue rather than medical though? Has she been tested for sleep apnoea? I'd be pushing for referrals to specialists if I was her, this is extreme.

No no tests sleep apnoea all blood tests done

I think the reason for her tiredness is probably in your post: she's depressed.

I've got some similar problems at home (minus the sleeping bits) but complicated by having more than one child. I'm also struggling and it's hard to know what to do.

What is she spending her money on if she's asleep all the time?

Antidepressants can make you very tired. Have you asked her to check the side-effects leaflet?

She does go out drinking every couple of weeks with friends and she has a new car to pay for

She's reduced her anti ds significantly due to tiredness . She is on a large dose of propananol which doc wants her to reduce but she's scared if side effects

It sounds like she’s depressed
most young people can’t afford to live on a normal wage anymore, bills are so so much!

She has money. She decided to spend it on a new car.
Which is OK if that is her priority.

When she woke at 22.45 @maddog1996 what does she do? Is she awake then for a chunk of time?

Is she up during the night I wonder? Depression, I would say. Do you think she’s avoiding speaking to the family so sleeps when you’re awake?

She's getting into a cycle of sleeping early evening then awake until early morning then sleeping a few hours again then up for work . So naturally by the time she gets home she's dead tired again ... and so the cycle continues

It's difficult with an actual adult but how is she when you try and talk to her?

Is it a cycle that she wants to alter? Would she be willing to say walk the DD when she gets home so that extends her day a little and gives her some much needed daylight?

That’s your answer then. Anyone would feel shattered living like that. It sounds like she wants to be awake when no one else is. Another symptom of someone who is very depressed.
can you turn the internet off at night?

Forgot to ask, is she talking to someone online in the early hours? Someone who is perhaps in America who is talking to her during their evening?