Feel like I'm losing dd

[Mamalamadrama]

Dd 20 moved in with her partner and their family last year. We were really close before and still spoke a lot when she moved out. But recently we haven't seemed to speak as much. She works and spends time between her partner's moms family and also her partner's dad's family. She doesn't come to see me and haven't text me for a while. So I text her today to see if I'd upset her she just said shes been busy working etc
How often do your adult children message you?

How long has it been? Maybe invite her out somewhere?

Why did she move out of her home with you and in with her partners family?

@Skynight9 lack of space/privacy she was sharing bedroom with her sister

I have 3 dc in their early 20s.
They message different amounts.
A lot of the "chat" is just that - they might comment on another comment in any one of the group chats. Or someone might put a funny meme or a picture of a cute penguin or something.
Direct questions tend to come across as nagging or as interrogation.
One of my dds can go for several days without contact. My ds tends to "chat" - as in comment on something - a lot more.

They are all different.

Similar here with DS19 who has moved in with v v wealthy girlfriend’s family. Everything they do / have is better than us apparently.

It’s heartbreaking - I put on a brave face but his younger sibling misses him enormously. Nothing has changed here and we were always so close.

I feel your pain OP 💔

Aww sorry to hear that your daughter isn't close with you I'm 28 and have to ring my mum everyday! Even though I see her at weekends when she comes to my house for food I still ring her for a
Chat every day. Invite your daughter out just you and her and enjoy the time you spend with her x