Smoking in the house

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I recently discovered that my 22 year old son has started to smoke. He knows how much I hate smoking but I realise that since he’s an adult there isn’t much I can do to make him stop. Anyway, I nipped out to the shop the other day and when I got home I could smell that he’d smoked inside the house which he knows is forbidden. I was really shocked and even though he said he’d never do it again I don’t know if I believe him. Am I overreacting?

I'd hate it if someone was smoking in my house, especially if I'd had told them not to. It's not pleasant. If my son wants to smoke, then he has to go down to the bottom of the garden!! Did he know that you would be upset if he smoked in the house?

I would tell him if it happens again he's leaving and I would mean it. How fucking dare he smoke in your home? I would be incandescent and that's an understatement.

Not overreacting I would lose my shit if someone smoked in my house. It’s so disrespectful. I would let him know that non smokers can ALWAYS smell if anyone has smoked nearby and if he ever does it again he’ll be looking for somewhere else to live.

You aren't overreacting,

I'm a smoker - I don't smoke a lot, but I'm a smoker, and I don't smoke in my own house - I won't even smoke in houses where the people who live there smoke, I don't like it and the smell definitely lingers, I see it as something to be done outside