I have something that has really upset me and can’t get it out of my head.
i am one of 4 sisters all of us adults with children. Our Dad left 25 years ago but we all have regular contact with him call and visit frequently. Any way since leaving mum for someone else he changed a lot, one of the biggest things that changed he went from never having money to sorting himself out and having plenty. He left mum just after losing their home and to bring up the two youngest on her own. Anyway we have grown to accept his change and just get on with things.
we all get a budget at Christmas £20 for the daughters and partners to share and £30 to each grandchild until they reach 18 then it goes down to £20. We all always buy him and his wife something to the value of around £50 (he evens gives us a list sometimes what they want)
anyway this year myself and one other sister have really struggled with money and was finding Christmas hard, so dad rang and said I understand you are both struggling and have come up with an idea that don’t bother with presents with us this year and we won’t buy you. We both agreed to this to save us some money. Anyway it came to Christmas and he has dropped of all the items and Christmas cards. And he kept to his word he gave two of my sisters their £20 and the grandchildren their £30/£20. Nothing for us two which I suppose if that makes him feel better let him get on with it. But what has hurt more out of this is that we also didn’t get a Christmas card. My daughter got a card but not me, same with my other sister her children got one but not her. I feel like this is a massive kick in the teeth and after the year we have gone through he’s made it worse. All I wanted was a little support to say hey don’t worry things will pick up, Happy Christmas. I don’t want or expect his financial help just support.
am I wrong and overthinking things or should I confront him. He obviously knows something is wrong has he’s not tried to contact me at all over Christmas.