My 23y ds works long shifts in a pub kitchen, often not home till midnight He then drinks alcohol until the early hours, cooks up food and leaves the kitchen in a mess, and then generally plays video games until he’s tired enough to fall asleep. At least this is what he says. He drinks every day
His room is disgusting, Beer cans, food wrappers, takeaway cartons and filthy plates, glasses and the like
clothes are strewn across the floor and he’s sleeping on filthy bedding because he won’t let me in to change it
you get the picture!
Last night after work he went out, he woke us with his stumbling about at 4.30am He was completely off his face on alcohol. He’d also managed to knock a hole in the plasterboard awaiting decoration.
My o/h went completely berserk at him, threatening to kick him out if he doesn’t sort himself out. Starting with cleaning his room
We need a tradesman to come in urgently for electrical work but I’m worried he might need access to the room
Since he’s come home he’s not come out of his room. He’s obviously got a stinking hangover. When I called through to see what he was doing he just shouted at me and said ‘next time he’d drink himself to death’ and that would make me happy. He’s really not in a good place, he’s also not a pleasant person to be around mostly.
The previous night though he told me he’d been chatting to a homeless guy and given him money to get a hotel room so he has a kind heart underneath all the anger and apathy
Im early 60’s and his father is older
we don’t need this but I also don’t need to be worrying if we did evict him.
we had threats of suicide when he was younger and struggling with college. He had a uni place but turned it down days before he was due to start
I’m sure he needs help and purpose in his life but at 23 but we are at our wits end