Depression is such a kick in the teeth - and it's not even my depression.

[ArmyWifenMum]

How do I help my daughter who is living a half life? She doesn't work, can't work, her poor mental health rules her life and ours. I would gladly give my last penny and last breath to keep her upright, but today... feeling like the world is on top of me. I'm so sad at how bleak her future looks and feels. I'm out of options and one of the hardest things is that she is wonderful, just wonderful and should be living! Should be grabbing handfuls of life and drinking it in! My heart breaks for her.

There is a group on FaceBook called Parenting Mental Health (it doesn't matter how old your child is). They help YOU support your person in the best possible way. Please have a look.

I used to believe this, but it doesn't have to be true. It's really important for you to have as good a life as you can- to not be sucked down by the awfulness. You have to see friends, do things you enjoy and look after yourself. That will give you the strength to look after your person. I'm a single parent (widow) of 2- one with minor and one with major mental health difficulties. I've been sucked right down with them but now i fight for my own well-being- and for theirs.

I'm with you OP. And I struggle to see an and to it. I worry about what will happen to my DD when something happens to me. She has depression, anxiety, ADHD and PTSD. Life is work and looking after her. I, like you, would give my disabled DD my last breath, and the hardest part is you can't change anything. She's wonderful and beautiful and clever and funny, but she had no life, no friends, nothing.
It is utterly heartbreaking and exhausting.