My eldest dd is about to return to her final year at university. She arrived hone a week ago. I'm feeling increasingly taken-for-granted but as I'm ill at the moment, not sure if IABU. I've got quite bad post viral symptoms following a pretty bad time of Covid.
Since she's been here, she seems to be treating the house like a hotel. Her room (which I'd spent a whole day cleaning) is strewn with dirty clothes on the floor, dirty tissues, etc. I feel this respects so little the work I'd done in cleaning it before she came home.
She expects that I will drive a 400 mile round trip to deposit her and her not insignificant number of belongings back at university. I've told her that I am ill, drained and easily fatigued. I've said that if I feel up to it, I'll do it but that the day I do this depends on how I am feeling. I said sometime next week might be possible and to not make any plans as she will need to go when I feel up to it. Nevertheless she has proceeded to make social plans with her friends without taking into account what I have said.
Since home, she has spent a good deal of time catching up with friends. I don't mind this and understand why she wants to do this but she's been abroad on an exchange all last year. It might gave been nice to spend some time with her or even if she could cook dinner occasionally given I'm ill.
Her sense of entitlement is huge. I find it very selfish and I kind of think at 21, she should perhaps be be a little more respectful and caring. I feel utterly taken for granted and especially since I'm struggling post Covid.
Am I expecting too much?