Rent - how much?

[OneFrenchEgg]

If you have adult children how much do they pay? What does that include? Why do you charge that?
We will have two adults who we gave a year rent free to. Locally a double room (not en-suite) starts at £480 in a shared house. They think £50 a week is too high (we are thinking ahead to when they pay).
Do you charge separately for food?

I think it all depends on how much they earn to be honest. We only take £100 per month for DS and that includes everything. He earns about £1000 per month but runs and pays for his car which he needs for work. But I know I'm a soft touch.

My son works full time and earns far more than me. He happily contributes to the household expenses. It has never been an issue. He has more than enough left over. He has plenty of money left over and save a lot of that, runs his car and still has money left to buy himself and do whatever he wants.
We are both adults and both share doing everything within the household.

My friend is asking for £50 a week as a contribution towards shopping and that's seen as a token amount!

In my social group almost all children have returned home after graduating. All have secured full time grad jobs and most only need to be in office 2 days a week.

Everyone is charging rent (whether they need it or not) between £200 - £300 per month. All happily pay as a room inc bills where I live start from £650 per month. All are saving for house deposits. If the amount required for a deposit was not as steep, they would prefer to rent together but it makes no financial sense to pay someone else's mortgage and not save for their own home.

I'd like more advice on this. My child is 22, has a job paying £23k plus her own side business paying possibly £2k. I only take £100pm. With the current situation I feel like I need to up this massively. But I feel guilty. The energy costs are going to skyrocket plus not including the WiFi and food. My partner works full time and me part time. What amount do you think is acceptable before I have a sit down meeting!😫

Im guessing that her take home pay is around £1600 a month if she is earning £23,000 (not including her side business). Does she have any outgoings?

My DS is also 22 and I'm a soft touch and only take £100 per month but he earns around £1000 and is paying a loan on his car and all the up keep. He is now looking for his "proper" job as he graduated last year and when his salary increases we will definitely be putting his "rent" up.

If I was you I would be looking at around £100 per week - she will still have over £1000 left.

Sat down with mine and showed him all the bills (except mortgage). He suggested £250 a month and I was fine with that.

Our son lives at home - he finished his degree during lockdown and although his job is in London he’s only in the office once a week - it’s an easy train journey to London from here. He has a good salary - just went up to £50k - and pays £600/month. This includes food but if he’s going over to the shops he’ll happily pick up any bits I need and won’t take the money. He’s planning to move up to London once he’s required to be in the office more and is saving for that time. I’m putting away £200/month for him, but my husband feels that’s unnecessary.

My two DC earn 25k (plus one runs a business as well) and I’ve raised their rent to £170 per week and they have just started paying their own mobile phones. They graduated last year and in the last 9 months have been earning this amount in their first proper job.
We all see happy with this.

My son is 24, he is doing an apprenticeship, though basic salary he is being paid above the normal rate. He has been working there since April 2021. I cleared all his prior debts, and paid his car insurance so he had no outgoings at the time.

He still goes out drinking/buys clothes/holidays, and has an expensive holiday booked for this month. He has been working day and night purely to find the holiday. He pays me £150 per month, does absolutely nothing indoors. He's not unkind/abusive etc, but incredibly selfish and entitled (he can't see this) I am single, work on a low band within the NHS. I feel guilty taking money or saying stuff, because I feel responsible for his useless father.

Please talk some sense into me, am I being unreasonable in asking him to contribute so that I am not keeping him, as I don't feel I should be.

I'm a single parent so my wage is the only one coming into the home. I get tax credits for my younger children but now have to pay £310 a term for my 16yo to go to college. My eldest child at home is 22. I ask for £250 from her on the understanding she saves as much as she can towards a house deposit. However just recently her boyfriend is staying at least 3/4 days a week, she's been asking about cost of tattoos and a personal trainer at gym and she is earning more than me (by a little). She seems offended when I suggest she should by offering more towards house and bills, especially as her boyfriend is there so often. Feel mean asking but I have one wage covering everything the household needs.

Not sure if I should ask for more money or just encourage her to move out. Also feel like she is trying to make a home of her own inside my home and pushing me out a bit. At her age I can understand her urge to nest and make her own home. I was 22 when I had my first baby and had a home of my own at 21. However this has meant I couldn't afford to buy a home.