Do you have a favourite child?

[RedRobyn2021]

I only have the one at the moment and I'm an only child myself

People always say they don't have a favourite but is it true?

[ivykaty44]

yes the best friend of my youngest dd, she is def my favourite as she goes home to her own family

[ivykaty44]

do you have a favourite parent?

[RedRobyn2021]

@ivykaty44 😂😂

[RedRobyn2021]

@ivykaty44

do you have a favourite parent?

Yes, my mother. I have never met my father.

[ivykaty44]

ok, sorry for being flippant

but different children bring you different joys and troubles.

I love mine the same but enjoy spending time with them in different ways, children have different personalities and so there are bits you like and bits you don't so much

You may be closer to one child at different stages of their life and then the other.

but I haven't got a favourite as they are far to many variables, hth

[shiningstar2]

I only have one and she is my favourite. It is rate for anyone in RL to admit to a favourite as the fallout would be awful if the news of such an admission would be awful if it ever got out within the family. However, judging by the sibling rivalry, golden child, scapegoat child dynamics often explored on these threads, perceptions of favouritism seem quite common. It seems though that while people can often recognise favouritism within their own birth families, most parents will strongly deny that they themselves play the favourite game. I am probably one of them. Can recognise favourites in mine and DHS birth families but probably would be quite sure I didn't have a favourite myself 😁😀

[Maydaysoonenough]

When mine do my head in I tell them I dislike them all equally! Easier relationships sure but def no favourites..

[Goldbar]

I like my imaginary children best. They're great - lovely manners, sit quietly at table, eat everything without complaint, ask for ratatouille and sushi, clean up after themselves and take themselves off to bed. Meanwhile, I'm off to stick some more beige food in the oven and I'm slightly dreading having to swap the imaginary baby (who coos and falls sweetly asleep on schedule) for a RL one later this year.

[DramaAlpaca]

I've three adult sons and I genuinely don't have a favourite. I never have, they are all very different but all wonderful. I've said this before on here, but I once overheard the three of them arguing about which of them was my favourite and it turned out they each thought they were 😂I guess that means I've done a good job. I hope so anyway.

[kmbegs]

Surely everyone has a favourite or I would have thought so. I only have one child so I don't (so far) but I'm one of four and my mum clearly has a favourite (not me although doesn't bother me) and my husbands mum clearly has a favourite of her kids (not him and does bother him a bit). There's a good episode of the crown about the queen and price Philip's favourites. As PP said it's surely natural, in the way you'll probably get on with one parent more than another, doesn't mean you love them less. People wouldn't admit it because that would be pretty horrible to actual say but IMO it's unavoidable.

[RedRobyn2021]

@DramaAlpaca

I've three adult sons and I genuinely don't have a favourite. I never have, they are all very different but all wonderful. I've said this before on here, but I once overheard the three of them arguing about which of them was my favourite and it turned out they each thought they were 😂I guess that means I've done a good job. I hope so anyway.

That is so lovely. You definitely have done a wonderful job by the sounds of it

[ClemDanFango]

No they’re all equally annoying. Little darlings.

[TheCanyon]

My favourite is the one that's upstairs quiet in their room. She's actually an over articulate 13yo gobby know it all shite, dd2 is a hormonal nice/shouty wee shite, dd3 currently dancing to a Russian song we've heard 50 times today, ds1 winding up his twin and just being noisy.

my favourite is actually...