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Adult son hates new partner

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BonnieIII77 · 20/04/2022 19:11

Hello, looking for advice as feel completely stuck. My 18 Yr old son hates my new partner. I separated from his dad 3 yrs ago and unfortunately he is as controlling as his father! I have been with new partner for couple of years and I would really like him to move in this year. My son is adamant he won't live with him and says he will move out. If he had the wages/maturity to move out I wouldnt worry but he doesn't. He goes to work the comes home, smokes weed and sits in his room all night. He doesn't see any friends. He refuses any compromise so I'm torn between letting an 18 Yr old who barely speaks to me control my life or putting my foot down but risking losing my son! He doesn't have anywhere to go and it scares me where he might end up (his dad is useless and not an option). I don't want him to feel he has to leave home but I've been unhappy for 20+ years and think I deserve to have a go at a normal happy life with new partner. I also have a 21 yr old who is happy for me and has no issues. Any advice please? Thank you

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MissPolliezDolly · 20/04/2022 19:16

How soon after leaving your marriage did you meet your boyfriend? Could it have happened just a bit too quick for your son who’d come have been very young at the time.

Dexterjg77 · 20/04/2022 19:19

About a year after, he def has no issues with me not being with his dad. He also says I can be with anyone else just not him. I kniw this is rubbish as he refuses to speak to his sister, her boyfriend etc.. if I thought he would change I would wait but he's getting worse.

IncompleteSenten · 20/04/2022 19:23

I'd move in with my partner.

Your son needs a hard lesson now if he's to stand a chance of not treating any future partners the way his dad treated you.

Being told that he is not actually in control of your life is step one.

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